Children experience stress and anxiety in ways we don’t always recognize as parents. Whether children are home with parents during a quarantine, or learning what life is like in the middle of a divorce of those parents, how to help children manage their stress and anxiety is an important question for all parents. As an attorney working in the area of family law, children going through difficult times is not unusual, however, quarantine is and it became all too apparent that I needed help in learning how to talk to my children about what’s happening in the world.
Is a divorce more stressful than doing a prison term? According to the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale (The Stress Test), divorce is only trumped by the death of a spouse on the level of stress experienced. And yes, Divorce scores 10 points higher than a Jail Term on the index. Not to be left behind a Marital Separation also scored above jail in terms of its stressful impact. These scores are referenced by T.H. Holmes and T.H. Rahe within “The Social Readjustment Rating Scale,” published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Research in 1967. Not much has changed in the 43 years since the scale was published. Divorce is still stressful, but what can be done to navigate it more successfully, so you don’t have the negative health impact that comes with such stress?
Over the past month, the Coronavirus (COVID-19) has had a dramatic impact on the lives of Americans. Oklahomans have not been immune and have begun to realize a more significant impact of the disease as the number of those impacted continues to rise.
In most cases, a child support computation is statutorily defined so long as husband and wife make less than $15,000.00 in combined gross (pretax) income. However, in cases where monthly income is above this $15,000.00 combined amount, the computation of child support is left to the discretion of the court, and as such, will vary significantly on a case-by-case basis. While most guidelines for child support cases reflect a level of income that is likely to continue at the same levels existing at the time of the award, how much to award when those levels are likely to change, such as in the case of a professional athlete, is an open question requiring a different method of computation and additional considerations.
The coronavirus pandemic is creating some of the more unique issues for our family law courts that we have ever experienced. The Coronavirus Aid, Relief, and Economic Security Act (“CARES Act”) that was enacted last Friday will not likely reduce issues that must be resolved when courts reopen for business. Two pressing issues created by the coronavirus relief bill involve child support payments and the relief payments for children.
As a divorcing parent, you might have already anticipated what to do about child custody and child support. But if you are like so many other parents going through a divorce in Oklahoma, you may have almost overlooked visitation rules. In our final installment of this blog series about what parents should know when divorcing, our Oklahoma City family lawyers take a closer look at visitation and everything it entails.
Raising a child as a married couple is expensive. Raising a child after divorce is all the more strenuous on your finances. Oklahoma allows the creation and enforcement of child support orders to help the divorced parent of lesser income make ends meet after their marriage ends. In this second blog entry of three, we discuss what every divorcing parent should know about child support in Oklahoma.
In any family law dispute or divorce, questions most always arise when issues of child custody, visitation, and child support surface. This is not surprising, though, as everyone, including the court, is expected to act in a way that reflects a child’s best interests during divorce. It is only natural for there to be plenty of questions and contention about what to do.